Have you ever experienced someone who seems to sweep you off your feet with overwhelming attention and affection right from the start? This behavior, also known as lovebombing, can initially feel good, but it can also be dangerous beneath the surface.

What is lovebombing?

Lovebombing is behavior where someone showers you with a lot of love, affection, compliments, and gifts early in a relationship. It’s like they’re trying to win you. They want to earn your trust. Have you ever felt met someone that gives you constant attention and praise?

Signs

How can you tell if someone is lovebombing you? Look out for these signs:

• Excessive flattery: They constantly praise you and make you feel like the most special person in the world.
• Moving quickly: The relationship moves very quickly, with declarations of love and commitment early on.
• Gestures: They shower you with expensive gifts or lavish surprises to impress you.

The danger of lovebombing

While lovebombing may seem harmless or even flattering at first and can give a good feeling, it often masks controlling or manipulative intentions. This intense affection can make you feel obligated to overlook red flags.

Risk

Lovebombing can lead to unwanted situations and feelings. Just to name a few to look out for;

• Emotional Dependency: You might become emotionally dependent on the constant validation and attention.
• Manipulation: The person may use lovebombing to gain control over your emotions and decisions.
• Unequal Power Dynamics: It creates an imbalance where your needs and boundaries are not respected.

Protect yourself

To protect yourself from lovebombing:

• Take your time: Don’t rush into relationships. Allow your relationship to develop over time.
• Set boundaries: Set boundaries and be clear about your boundaries.
• Observe: observe how the other person is behaving and if the person is respecting your boundaries.
• Seek support: If you have doubts or don’t feel good about the relationship, talk to people you trust about your feelings and observations.

Lovebombing, can look good at the beginning. But it can lead to unhealthy relationships with manipulation and control. It is important to recognize the signs early.